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  SEXUAL HARASSMENT ON IRC
  The problem discussed on this page is mainly refering to the Thai IRC channels and with the author's point of view.
 

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Purpose of this page

This page was written to expose and discuss a dark of side of IRC, and also to give advice to those who experience the problem. IRC is meant for people to communicate and enjoy talking with their friends. It is not meant that one group - in this case mainly females - has to be humiliated or degraded just because they want to enjoy IRC as others.

Definition of sexual harassment

It's up to each individual to define "sexual harassment". People on the net have different backgrounds and are of different cultures. Some might be more open minded than others. Generally, the western people are more open minded about sex than Thais. Like a foreigner who should respect the customs of the country, there's the same practice when joining a Thai channel.

Although people have different opinions, there are some joint things that many people consider to be sexual harassment. Which might be asking for sex, or making sex related comments. Just "flirting" is not the same, although keeping messaging someone against his/her will, might be considered "harassment".

Discussing the problem

I'm quite sure that sexual harassment occurs on most channels. But #Thailand seems to be subjected to this problem very frequently. Actually more frequent than #Siam, since the name "Siam" is not as well-known. The explaination is Thailand's bad reputation regarding prostitution, which makes many people around the world get the wrong picture. With their prejudiced and narrow minds, they imagine that a majority of Thai females are "cheap" or prostitutes.

Those females that I've asked about this issue, have all once or more been sexually harassed. Both by public channel messages, and private messages. Some might say that IRC shouldn't be taken too seriously, and I agree about that. Sexual harassment is not a new phenomen, it's old and common. But that doesn't mean that it has to be accepted. Everyone has the right to enjoy IRC, without being forced to be an object or "tool" for someone's perverted mind.

On IRC, it's much more easier to say whatever you want, than in real life. You don't have to take any consequences, just sit there hiding behind your screen. Some of the abusers are actually Thai males, but the big majority consists of non-Thais. Sometimes it happens that racist remarks are included.

IRC is mostly populated by males, so it has become a "hunt" for females. Very commmon questions on IRC are "Any girls here?" and "Are you m/f?". Now I'm not saying that asking any of those questions is sexual harassment, but might - in some cases - be indicating what that person wants.

What to do about it

It's quite hard to change habits of a big group of people. Some might change, but there will always be new ones. To some of those, I believe it's a question of maturity. Advices to those who experience this problem:
  1. Use /ignore command so you won't see his messages.
  2. If the abuser is on the channel and you're channel operator, try kick & ban. You can also ask a channel operator to do that for you. Just explain your problem and he/she might help you out. Please make sure that the operator you're talking to is not a bot. :)
  3. Warn other people, if you see him joining the channel regulary. There might be serveral victims, not only you. If someone joins the channel and repeatedly sexually harass you or others, you can ask a bot owner (or anyone who has enough access level) to add him to AutoKick List. He would then be automatically kicked & banned on join.
Kick & ban might seem cruel, but those who doesn't show you any respect, neither deserve your respect. If you can't somehow tell him to stop, then I don't think there's any other way.

To read more about this issue, check out Yujira's Perverts Alert page. There you can also post your comments and read incoming messages. You can also mail me for any comments.

Written by: Jetro

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hameedbilal@yahoo.com from proxy1.ksc.net.th on Sunday, August 08, 1999 at 02:13:58


I've read many post here and I think it's quite good.But how can we bring every rude and nasty words out of this page.It's your and Thailand's famous and it's a shame too if there are many rude or nasty word.Please think and do it.Thanks Todd

todd_anek@hotmail.com from 203.145.20.1 on Tuesday, November 03, 1998 at 09:58:42


สวัสดี สำหรับคนที่ต้องการกำลังใจ เรามาเป็นเพื่อนกันนะ

Golf/ nttwt@thaimail.com from 202.44.224.71 on Wednesday, July 29, 1998 at 09:40:56


HI! I am a female from Sweden, and I want many friends from Thailand, both female's and males..I am going to visit Thailand for the first time in Jan.99 and I hope that you will be my friend..And to all Thai-females..kick the ugly men out, who are thinking that you are a prostitue!! I hate that kind of seem at Thai-people!!..Thail-people are very friendley..My friend told me that, after she was there..So, please, mail me..I need friends in Thailand, who I can meet when I be there..Please, mail me soon, so we can be knowing each other good, before we meet!!..I am 36 y.o and I am looking for true and fine friendship!!..please mail me now..and feel free to ask what you want too!!..You Thai-guy..I am looking for one for maby more than just friendship..age: 18-36..I am pretty cute..and 155cm/47kg.. hope to get friends in Thailand soon!! And, Take care all females, I am at you'r side!!! //Sniffan....

sniffan@usa.net from dialup210-4-44.swipnet.se on Sunday, July 26, 1998 at 11:38:05


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Sweetmeeh@hotmail.com from stud058.nj.devry.edu on Wednesday, June 03, 1998 at 08:25:32


I'm in love w/ a thai lady for some time now and i could'nt think of anything better. She is an understanding person who has feeling and respect for other people and creatures. Anyhow, i was married to another thai lady from a very cold hearted family and endured some ruff times. To the other topics discussed on this page, i highly understand that thai people are tired of farang staring at their women and passing unappropriate remarks over. All people in the world and all thai people, i love you. Greetings to all the muay thai warriors that alive or passed away.

from gatezh5-172.access.ch on Sunday, April 26, 1998 at 08:43:48


I would like have a thai friend girl. Farang,live in Bangkok for many years. I am reasonable person with 45 and (I think) good looking. So I waiting for your answer. Jose

jose_14@hotmail.com from loxppp11-lt9.lumpini.loxinfo.net on Monday, April 13, 1998 at 16:12:23


Well, i had experienced sexually harassment on the net myself. So what i'm going to say here is you have to stand up for yourself when someone harasses u in the sexual way!! Don't let him get you down, try to find a way to stop it. Once i typed it out on mainscreen in the chat room, telling people that this person is bothering me. Then many people in the chat room started to gang up and told him off so he left the room afterward!! It may not work everytime but i'm sure there're alot of ways else to stop sexual harassment on the net. And trust me, there'are many nice and respectful white guys out there. So don't think that all the white guys are going to harrass you. Actually there're even some thai or asian guys who harass the thai or asian girls themselves, what a shame!!!

Melanie from hhtak017188.netvigator.com on Saturday, April 11, 1998 at 19:45:42


Dont let the weirdos get you down. Let dogs bark, There are many who respect women for women. :)

chasee/ g4019001@au.ac.th from dial85.aunet.au.ac.th on Saturday, January 31, 1998 at 11:05:41


hi :> my name 's ANN. I study at Satriwittaya School,m.5 . I want friend to talk with me. my pager is 085737 .

tpap@email.egat.or.th from email.egat.or.th on Sunday, November 16, 1997 at 17:43:47


I'm strongly agree with that.. Somehow.. it won't change anything.. cuz we, thai, got very bad reputation to the other.. I don't know why.. every country on earth do have prositudes.. may be they are more than us... but they wouldn't said it.. However, that's the pass.. now, present.. thing can be change if we all act the right way.. Once my sis play Iphone.. she talked to stranger, Thai, he talk nice.. but after talk to my sis for a while.. he sent her pix... a pix of a part of human body.. you know... my sis was really angry.. cuz she also have storng mind about this.. so she ask him "why did you do this?".. he reply "GIRLS LIKE IT..MANY GIRLS SAID SHE LIKE IT"... so my sis hang the phone up.. however he keeped calling her.. but as I pick it up and said "Hello.. What do you want!! " after that he didn't call.. his name is "PIROj" nick name "MAX".. well.. if anyone like it.. may be you should give him a call.. but you doesn't like it.... spread the news.. so.. people would know.. Thankz..

rerkman@hotmail.com from ppp-syd-124.ca.com.au on Sunday, October 26, 1997 at 01:51:32


hi everybody do you want to have a new friend are girl. If you want you can sent your e-mail to talk with me all the time or call my pager 162-223656 when you sent your massage to me

mammy@infonews.co.th from venus.infonews.co.th on Friday, October 17, 1997 at 11:37:28


I couldn't agree more about the article above. Nothing pisses me off more than mindless morons who have their brains between their legs! Having lived and travelled extensively in Asia for many years, I often feel embarrased by the offensive behaviour of many western men who see Asian women as nothing more than sex objects. It reinforces common stereotypes of both the Asian ladies and western men. I only wish that I could believe there would be a time when people accept each other for who they are, and recognize the intrinsic value of every human soul - irrespective of the appearance of the body in which it is housed! Maybe I'm a bit of a dreamer? But my many friends throughout Asia have made my life so much more pleasant just by the friendship they have given me, and I consider myself extremely fortunate to return such friendships.

paul@aepnews.com.au from ts0112.powerup.com.au on Tuesday, August 12, 1997 at 10:13:19


I have to add one thing : If love happen it's dead without passion! but pasion is a shortime so it's important to have respect for the other... Thai girls are good at this job;_)

bvincent@isicom.fr from dialup31.isicom.fr on Monday, July 14, 1997 at 00:47:20


It seems that it's hard to be a Thai girl on the net! People have narrowed mind, specially man . Open our mind and let's talk each other with respect and curiosity. With no Hate and no passion all become so clear! Vincent

bvincent@isicom.fr from dialup31.isicom.fr on Monday, July 14, 1997 at 00:14:35


Hi,all I'd like to talk to everyone who is really polite. And I'd suggest that whoever comes aross this site please share only your good experiences. Hopefully,we are all to be good friend. By the way, I'm really worry about the status of Thai wemen in terms of Westerners' views but If you are Thai girl, could you please demonstrate our blissful culture to them. Sometimes you might feel being sexual discrimination,please be patient. No need to talk to the one who treats us like that. Please live up your life in harmoney,all human beings.

Sitti Sriprom/ psriprom@agric.uwa.edu.au from styx.uwa.edu.au on Saturday, July 12, 1997 at 16:03:52


I feel that those people that keep saying such the rude things should be shamed and think that if someone have done this to their families, how they will feel? Nothing that we can do just ignore them and try to get away from them.

NUT u4012679@au.ac.th from dial291.aunet.au.ac.th on Friday, July 04, 1997 at 21:37:16


I had experience on sexual harassment myself. But it is in real life, at work from my boss. So this might not really fall into the subject here. Anyway, I just want to share something. When this thing happens, the victim tends feel powerless and threatened in some way and to a certain point. I believe a lot of victims know what to do. It's just that to be able to do it or not is another story. But I think the bottom line is if possible, avoid that person. And speak up. Yes, DO SPEAK UP. It might not really solve the problem, but it should lessen it to some points. For IRC, it seems there are already advice provided. I just want to add that it is so much easier to igonore those people in here because one, you do not know them personally; two, you do not have to meet them everyday; and three, they are just unknown f...ing shit. Hope everyone have pleasant IRC experience.

Ju2540@aol.com from 170-142-2.ipt.aol.com on Monday, December 23, 1996 at 06:41:13


All I've got to say about this issue having to do with sexual harrassment and disrespect to Thai women is that those perverts are just low-down dirty stinky naive men! Who needs them and their shit. Stand up for yourselves and keep your head up high 'cause if you ever run into any creeps all you gotta do is tell them off and put them in their places. Men do get intimidated by women that will speak out. So please don't let people..especially men belittle you or make you feel worthless. I myself as a Thai woman get lots of little heart breaking comments but you have to stand on both your feet..not one and give those men a good kick they'll never forget. It's like this..if you respond the creeps are gonna keep bugging..if you don't respond..the creeps are gonna go away crying. Take your pick.

Tiwa:jere@telusplanet.net from bnffpx01-port-21.agt.net on Monday, December 09, 1996 at 20:43:50


To all Thai ladies! don't let anyone sexually harrass you, you are human beings who deserve respect and love like any other lady, kick and bann the impolite ones Once I was asked in IRC Siam if I would like to get nude/sex photos, it is a shame, clean the channel from such abuses

Michael Lihl 101541.2723@compuserve.com from dd25-059.compuserve.com on Friday, November 29, 1996 at 18:27:05


I strongly agree with the writer about those lewd people who made me feel bored to join irc inter!!! i think many girls also think as me. glad to c that there are some people who care about this problem.

doko from dial40.aunet.au.ac.th on Friday, October 11, 1996 at 00:37:50


it very great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

s3904@ed.nda.ac.jp from std4c23.ed.nda.ac.jp on Wednesday, October 09, 1996 at 22:36:22


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